What would you do??

[Unregistered]

I have a friend that told me recently that she was in the process of moving out..ie had a deposit down on a place..when she found out she was pregant. She decided to stay and wham a few months after number one there was number two...she has been with her dh since she was 19..about 15 years..she told me that she is not happy..she feels like they have nothing in common and does not feel valued she doesn't want to be there anymore....I love her and will support her though anything...I don't think her dh has any clue how she really feels I get the feeling when she stayed she didn't do it with her heart she did it with the fact that there was a child involved..I think her dh truly loves her and just needs a kick in the pants...ie some councelling...maybe that is just me with my want to see them together...he isn't a bad person..has a little but of a temper..alot like mine :oops:... I enjoy them as a couple
I am writing this anonymous to protect her....
what would you do???

[Kristen]

Hmm...let me think overnight on this one.

What a tough situation for her to be in. It's so hard when you feel like you've drifted from your partner and father of your children. :(

[kathleen]

I would definitely suggest councelling, or maybe they should have some alone time...do they ever go out together? sometimes couples DO drift apart after being together so long and its's hard to remember what you have in common..if there was anything to begin with! she should bring it up to her hubby that she has an issue so he isn't completley unaware...who knows, maybe he is unhappy as well?

[Dawnelda]

I think that she should talk to her DH and see what he thinks about it all. He might not have a clue as to whats going on and if that is the case it is not fair on him.

[Kristen]

I would definitely suggest councelling, or maybe they should have some alone time...do they ever go out together? sometimes couples DO drift apart after being together so long and its's hard to remember what you have in common..if there was anything to begin with! she should bring it up to her hubby that she has an issue so he isn't completley unaware...who knows, maybe he is unhappy as well?

I think Kathleen nailed it with that. Having got to a point with Claudio where we were so far apart I never thought we'd come back together, they need to talk before she pulls the plug.